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[Witcher [Partecipante] 4847]

Hai ragione, anche io mi sto esercitando nello storytelling.

Pubblico un estratto del manuale di thundercat che spiega benissisimo lo storytelling.

If you spend your time telling stories that are aimless and have no point, you're going to end up boring your audience rather than captivating them.

In the larger scale of things, all stories can be broken down into two parts:

1. Build Up

2. Payoff

The first part of your story is the build up, the second part of your story is the payoff. The build up is necessary to get people interested in hearing about the payoff, and the payoff is what will make your audience feel like the story was worth listening to.

Your story should also have a sense of linear flow and movement. For instance, if you were to make a graphical representation of your overall story, it might look something like this:

A --------------------------------------------------------------------------- B

In this case, you go from the beginning of your story (point A) to the end of your story (point B).

Of course, in between there, you can have a lot of stops on your road from A to B. For instance:

A – you wake up ----- you meet a girl ------ you two fall in love ----- you get married – B

See? It's not:

A – You fall in love --- you meet a girl ------- you wake up ------ you get married – B

The more abstract you get with how you tell a story, the harder it's going to be for your audience to follow it. So always start at the beginning and work your way to the end, expressing events as they happen. You can sometimes stop to explain certain elements of your story, but you always want the sense that you're building up to something relevant to your audience.

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Characters

Every story you tell needs to have characters in it. It's impossible to tell a story without characters. If you do, it's not a story, it's an explanation or an instruction. Remember, stories are meant to capture and lead the imagination of other people! And the way that happens is to have them identify with a character in your story so that they can experience the emotions you want them to.

The characters in your story can be broken down like this:

1. Main Character

2. Supporting Characters

Every story needs a main character, something which the action of the story centers around. The best main character for your own stories is YOU.

Remember, people experience emotion and feelings vicariously through your main characters. When you are the main character in your story, they will associate all the feelings and emotions they experience TO you!

So you want to make sure those emotions are good ones. Don't make yourself out to be stupid, or mean, or evil, because people will associate whatever you let them experience with you. If you want to make a point about someone being stupid or mean, use someone you don't like as an example so those emotions and feelings are associated with them and not you.

The main character is the person the action centers around. They'll be the ones who drive your story forward from point A to point B.

A main character must be ACTIVE in your story.

If you tell a story about how you witnessed a guy fight three men by himself, you're not the main character of that story because you weren't the one fighting! The guy who took on the three men is the main character, because it's his actions the story is centering around.

Understand?

Supporting characters is everyone else that populates your story. They interact, support, hinder, or fight against the main character. They can be your friends, your enemies, your

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lovers, or strangers you meet on the street. It doesn't matter. If they're not a main character, they're supporting characters.

When you're telling a story to someone, try to keep the number of supporting characters low, because you don't want them to have to remember the names of everyone you're talking about. Two to three supporting characters in a story is sufficient. Any more than that, and you may be pushing the limits of your audience's memory.

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Action

Stories are all about action. Now, I don't mean that your characters have to run around shooting at people as things blow up. What I mean is, your characters actually have to DO something in your story to make it worth listening to.

Usually action can be broken up into these categories:

• Your Main Character wants something and actively goes after it

• Your Main Character learns a valuable lesson

• Your Main Character has a funny or unique experience

Every story you hear a person tell is a variation on one of these three pieces of action. When you come up with your own stories, make sure at least one of these actions is present to keep things interesting.

These actions can be expressed numerous ways. For instance:

1. You want a pet so you go to the pet store

2. You didn't think it was possible to fall in love until you met this one girl…

3. You went skydiving last weekend

4. A friend of yours had cancer and you were by his side at his deathbed

5. You had the best steak of your life at a restaurant in the most unlikely place

It doesn't matter what it is, as long as your main character did or experienced something that is worth listening to, or you have a point to make by telling the story.

Always know what you are trying to communicate with your story, and that will help you determine how the action is drives the story forward.

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Details

The devil is in the details. When you tell a story, you are creating a world within the imaginations of your audience. The best way to create worlds in people's minds is to share specific details with them to help fill out the pictures they're creating in their minds. The more detailed you can be, the better.

For instance, let's say you're telling a story about a cat.

"I bought a cat today."

Ask yourself, what kind of cat is it?

"I bought a Siamese cat today."

What kind of Siamese cat?

"I bought a black and silver Siamese cat today."

How would you describe the cat?

"I bought the most beautiful black and silver Siamese cat today."

See the difference details make? When you do this within your stories, you can paint vivid pictures in your audience's mind that will help them get sucked into the story you're telling.

Just be careful you don't get too wrapped up in details. After all, too much of a good thing can spoil what you're trying to create! For instance, you wouldn't want to say something like:

"I just paid $1200 at a pet store called "Cuddles" on 35th and Vine that took me an hour to drive to for the most beautiful, cute, and cuddly black and silver Siamese cat with long whiskers, yellow eyes, and flowing snow-tipped tail that I named Fluffy."

That falls under the category of "too much information." Just give people what they need to create the picture you want them to see. If they want more information, they'll ask you for it in the form of a question. That's where you can fill in more details.

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Obstacles

Never make anything easy for your characters. The best stories always have obstacles that the main character must overcome to get what he wants. Your stories should be no different.

If you're telling a true story, try to think about all the obstacles that kept you from getting what you wanted.

For instance, let's say you had to get to the video store before it closed to return a movie that you didn't want to pay a late fee on. Here are some obstacles that might have hindered you from achieving your goal:

• You couldn't find the video in your house

• It wasn't rewound all the way

• Your watch was wrong, so you actually had less time than you thought

• You didn't have enough gas in your car to drive to the video store

• There was a traffic jam on your way there

• They were getting ready to close the store just as you drove up

People love to hear about how others overcome obstacles. That's what determines who is a hero and who isn't. The hero's of old overcame great obstacles, like monsters, natural disasters, and evil villains. In each case, it seemed like the obstacles were insurmountable! But somehow, the hero found a way to overcome them.

By the same token, you can seem like a hero too if what you faced on your way to the video store seemed impossible to overcome. It might not be on the same epic scale as the heroes of old, but that doesn't mean people won't see you as a man of action!

When crafting your own stories, always be sure to include as many obstacles as you can in them. Nothing gets people more excited than when a main character seems to do the impossible.

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Speak In Generalizations

Stories are meant to be larger than life. Though they may have really happened, you should always change a story in favor of dramatic effect. If you're the main character, try to make you seem like an important figure in the world you're looking to create.

A great way to do this is to speak in generalizations that help make your main character seem more important.

Fir instance, let's say you have a story about how you hit your first home run in little league. Maybe in real life, your parents were the only ones who jumped to their feet and started clapping, but in your story EVERYONE jumped to their feet and started clapping and cheering.

If you have a story about how you just bought a new suit and you look really good in it, maybe in real life no one noticed it was a new suit, but in your story, you should make it a point to say how EVERYONE was checking you out, and you had guys asking who your tailor was, and women asking you out on dates.

See how this works? You're basically building social proof into the stories you tell. Obviously, there's never a moment in time where EVERYONE does the exact same thing, but realize – stories aren't about facts. They're about how you see the world. If you felt like everyone was checking you out, that's how you experienced it (plus, it makes for a better story than just having one or two people notice you!).

Here are a few generalizations to be aware of when telling stories:

• Everyone

• Always

• Everywhere

• All The Time

Use them whenever you feel necessary, and if people call you on it by saying "I'm sure EVERYONE wasn't checking you out," or something like that, stick to your guns and respond with "Yes they were! I'm telling you, EVERYONE was checking me out! It ALWAYS happens EVERYWHERE I go when I'm wearing that suit."

Remember, if you believe it, your audience will too.

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Know Your Outcome

Always know how your story ends. A story without an ending isn't a story. If you do everything right then leave your audience hanging, you will garner resentment from them, because they actually invested themselves in what you were telling them, only to be let down.

By the same token, your ending may not be conducive to what you want people to feel when you tell your story. For instance, if you're talking to a woman you want to get all hot and bothered, would you tell a story that had to do with your best friend dying or a girl you know who got raped? Of course not. You'd want to tell stories about whirlwind romances, or love at first site, or steamy rendezvous.

Knowing your outcome will also keep you on track. Too many times, you'll see people struggle to figure out where they're going with a story, or what the point of what they're saying is. They'll stutter, their tonality with get quieter, their eyes will dart around nervously as they try to think of something to say next…

All those actions will help lose your audience.

Simply by knowing what the point of your story is and how it will end will do wonders for your ability to tell it.

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How To Tell A Story

The most important thing to remember about telling a good story is that it's not so much about what you say, rather, it's about how you say it.

When told right, the most boring, pointless story can be entertaining. When told wrong, the most interesting and well structured story can feel like a complete waste of time.

No matter what story you're telling, remember to tell it with these three elements:

• Confidence

• Conviction

• Energy

When you tell stories using these three things, you'll notice people watching you with rapt attention, hanging on your every word!

Let's go into detail.

Confidence: What I mean by confidence in this respect is different from what we talked about in the chapter The Art Of Confidence. When you tell a story with confidence, you tell it in such a way as to communicate you know exactly where it's going. There's a point to the story, and you know what it is, and you're in the process of communicating that point to others. You're not speaking in a wishy-washy, scared way, and you're not meandering as you tell the story, getting side-tracked by irrelevant storylines. You're telling your story in such a way where it moves forward smoothly in a strong direction.

When stories are told with confidence, people will sit back and go along with it. When you do not know where you're going with a story, you will lose your audience.

Conviction: This is where you communicate to your audience that you believe your story. Often times, people may find what you're telling them hard to believe. They'll often ask questions because they're either genuinely interested in what you're talking about, or they're testing to see if what you're telling them really happened. When you speak with conviction, you know your story backwards and forwards. You know the answers to any question that may arise. You know every little detail there is, so that when you tell your story, those listening to it will believe in what you're saying just as much as you do!

Energy: Energy is about how you tell your story. It's the energy in your voice, it's how your eyes light up at certain points, it's when you pause for dramatic effect, it's your

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facial expressions, your arm gestures, it's about how much you get wrapped up in your own story and what energy you communicate to other people. A story told with little or no energy is boring to listen to, because it lacks any sense of excitement, humor, or purpose. A story told with a great deal of energy is easy to get wrapped up in and can capture the imagination of anyone who's listening to it.

When you combine these three elements, you are able to tell powerful, exciting stories no matter what they're about. When a person displays these three elements when they're speaking, some people call it "charisma."

Look at films of some of the most charismatic world leaders, and you'll always see these three elements present when they address their audience. When President Kennedy gave a speech, he spoke with confidence. When President Regan gave a speech, he spoke with conviction. When Hitler gave a speech, he spoke with energy. You'll see all three elements in the speeches of these men, and when you do, you'll understand how they were able to lead and influence so many people.

Here's a little exercise for you to try out. Think of the most boring and mundane story you can, and then practice it in front of a mirror. Incorporate these three elements into how you tell the story and look at the difference. You may find yourself adding more and more details to the story to help you find how to place these elements into your technique, and that's okay. When it's all over, you'll see the difference.

Example: I woke up this morning and ate a bowl of cereal.

Boring story, huh? Now try telling it with Confidence, Conviction, and Energy, and see what happens.

Example: Man, I woke up this morning soooooo hungry! My alarm clock didn't go off, so I must have slept until noon, which is really, really late for me, but I was up all night watching a James Bond Marathon on TBS. So when I went to get something to eat, I found out my roommate had eaten all the cereal, and there was nothing left to eat in my place because we only have week-old Chinese food leftovers in the fridge (don't ask me why). So I went to my neighbor next door, and I guess she likes to sleep in late too because when she opened the door she was wearing this really skimpy nightgown! When I asked her if I could borrow some cereal, she totally thought it was a lame pick-up line or something and started coming onto me! Now, usually I'd be into it because my neighbor is an incredibly beautiful woman, but the thing is, I was so hungry I couldn't think straight! So here's this beautiful, scantily clad woman coming onto me, and all I can think about is Captain Crunch! Unbelievable, right? The thing is, though, she has a boyfriend and I don't mess around with girls who are in relationships, so I told her "No, I really just want some cereal. I'm really hungry!" So she invites me in to have breakfast with her, so we're sitting there, eating cereal, laughing about how she thought I came over to hit on her, when her boyfriend walks in and sees us sitting in our pajamas eating breakfast! He thinks we spent the night together and were having an affair! So we try to explain what happened and he looks like he's going to rip my throat out, so I go back to

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my apartment next door freaking out this guy's going to come by with a gun or something. But it turns out my neighbor explained everything to him and we laugh about it all the time now, so everything's cool. But that's why I always keep extra cereal in my bedroom!

Hell of a difference, right?

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Storytelling Mannerisms

Storytelling Mannerisms are about how you use your body language and voice when telling a story. This goes hand-in-hand with the Confidence, Conviction, and Energy I talked about earlier.

If you look at the best storytellers out there, they will use their entire body to tell a story. Their actions and their voice communicate action, emotion, and feeling that has a definite effect on their audience.

For instance, when it comes to your voice, be sure to speak clearly and loud enough for your audience to hear you. Remember, if your audience can't hear your story, they're not going to get caught-up in it!

If you can, use different voices while you're telling your tale to really drive home the visceral aspect of your story. If there's a stupid character, talk in a stupid voice. If there's a female character, talk in a high-pitched voice. If a character gets mad, talk angrily. If a character is breathlessly in love, talk that way too.

Remember, the way you communicate with others will determine how they feel.

By the same token, your eyes should be complimenting your voice. Keep eye contact with the person you're telling the story to. Let your eyes grow wide with surprise when a sudden twist in your story takes place. Have your eyes narrow when one of your characters becomes suspicious. Leer at your target seductively when one of your characters is trying to seduce someone.

Use your hands and your body to accentuate your words. If there's a car crash in your story, slap your hands together when you say "BOOM!" If a character receives a standing ovation in your story, clap. If a character is antsy or flipping out, jump up and down in your seat.

What I'm trying to communicate to you is this: You must become an actor when telling your story.

Using mannerisms such as facial expressions and gestures help suck people into your story because you, yourself, are getting sucked into your story as you act it out. Nothing can be more intoxicating when you see someone fall into their own story so deep, that they actually become the characters they're talking about.

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Constructing Your Own Stories

Eventually, you'll want to create stories of your own to tell to other people after you start interacting with them. It's through these stories that the people you talk to will get to know what kind of a person you are. It is also how they will determine if they have a good time with you or not.

Usually, you will want stories that cater to a specific outcome. For instance:

1. Stories that are funny and entertaining

2. Stories that are romantic

3. Stories that are seductive

4. Stories that are exciting

The best is when you have a story that relates to something you're talking to the other person about. For example, let's say you're talking to another man about the stock market, and you have a story about how you made a crazy investment, against the advice of all your friends and experts, that paid off really well. Something like that can communicate to the man you're talking to that you're a risk taker, you stick to your guns, believe in yourself, and are successful.

I recommend using as many "real life" stories as you can as opposed to making things up. You can get away with embellishing a little bit, but don't blow it out of proportion. The more stories you can tell someone about yourself, the more insight they get into you, and the more they want to share their own stories in return.

Here's the breakdown on how to construct your own story:

1. Figure out what you want to communicate

2. Choose your main character

3. Determine the main character's action

4. Plot out the details of your story

5. Know what obstacles the main character will face and how he overcomes them

6. Know how your story ends

Once you've figured out all these elements, you have your story! The only thing left to do is figure out how to properly tell it.

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Practicing Your Story

Let's face it. If you want to get good at something, you'll have to practice it. Just like an actor learning his lines, you'll have to learn your story.

The best example of this is in the movie "Reservoir Dogs" when Tim Roth's character, an undercover policeman, must learn to tell a story to win over the gangsters he's trying to infiltrate. Just like him, you will need to learn how to tell your stories the best.

Some people think that the ability to tell a good story has to come naturally, which is absolutely untrue. Everything worthwhile takes practice and storytelling is no different.

If you look at men who are naturals with women, pay attention to how they tell their stories. They will often tell the same stories, again and again, to every woman they meet. Every time they tell the story, it will get better and better until they've perfected the telling of it.

You can do things the same way, or you can prepare before you go out. I recommend this because it helps to practice in private before opening up your story to the scrutiny of others.

When you've created a story, you need to memorize it. It will take a few hours spread over time. I recommend you write out the story first. Then, read it silently and try to see the story in your mind's eye by visualizing it as a series of pictures.

Next, learn it by reading it aloud repeatedly, enjoying the words and the sound of the phrases.

Think about words that may be new or unfamiliar to your audience and incorporate their meanings into the story so that you won't need to interrupt it during the telling to explain.

Time yourself when you read the story aloud. After you have memorized it, time yourself again. If you use less time, you are either telling it too fast or skipping parts. If it takes much longer, you are telling the story too slowly.

Tell your story to anyone who will listen. Before going to bed, read it aloud again. If you can, tape or videotape yourself telling the story.

Once you've memorized the story, you are ready to tell it. Be sure of your sequence of events and practice out loud, in front of a mirror if possible, until you are used to the sound of your own voice and gestures. Watching yourself in the mirror as you tell your

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story is a great way to work out your facial expressions and gestures. Try to devote some time to it.

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[kasanova [Partecipante] 222]

Ragazzi,mi preme fare il vigile urbano nel contenere un possibile fuori tema

Qui si impara a sedurre e a trombare,non a scrivere romanzi,narrative

Ci tengo a precisarlo

[Witcher [Partecipante] 4847]

lo so, ma me l'ha chiesto no?

P.S. kasa col 60 years come siamo messi? Se serve una mano ve la do io.

Modificato 18 Febbraio 2011 da Witcher

[pattyfashion [Partecipante] 6]

Grazie Witcher del tuo contributo prezioso...volevo sapere se però avevate proprio dei repertori personali dove potremo raccoglierli tutti in un .pdf e fare tutti STORYTELLING è molto importante secondo me...anche se non dobbiamo scrivere romanzi...

[Witcher [Partecipante] 4847]

Per kasa ed andreas. Cosa usate dopo l'opener?

[Andreas [Élite] 3578]

Grazie Witcher del tuo contributo prezioso...volevo sapere se però avevate proprio dei repertori personali dove potremo raccoglierli tutti in un .pdf e fare tutti STORYTELLING è molto importante secondo me...anche se non dobbiamo scrivere romanzi...

Dico una cosa veloce..

IMPORTANTE:

Nello "storytelling", far vivere emozioni all'hb.

Uomini e donne però, comunicano in modo diverso.

GROSSO errore maschile: descrivere le emozioni. Dire "Ero calmo, felice, contento, stanco" non serve a niente.

Essere razionali è inutile; le donne sono più emotive.

Descrivete la situazione: suoni, colori, odori, sensazioni.. l'hb si crearà un'immagine ed andrà a rivivere quell'emozioni in automatico.

Descrivete TUTTO il contesto, NON la singola emozione.

(Volevo scriverci un thread ma son di fretta, sorry. Spero possa essere utile questo piccolo input).

[Witcher [Partecipante] 4847]

Ok andreas, appena puoi fallo che mi interessa. Sto per iniziare a sargiare e sto facendo un mio metodo che è un misto tra il thundercat, il mistery e il direct. Mi serve qualcosa sullo storytelling e sono a posto. I concetti ce li ho, non ho ansie da approccio, mi serve solo sapere qualcosa di più sullo storytelling, o meglio, vorrei avere uno stile più direct e natural possibile, mantenendo comunque certe strutture "alla mistery". Credo che tu e kasa (col 60 years) possiate aiutarmi. Aspetto input da parte vostra

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POTRESTE COLLABORARE TUTTI A POSTARE QUALCHE STORIES PER IL TELLING grazie mille...L'UNIONE FA LA FORZA...FACCIAMO UN PDF DI STORYTELLING CHE E' OTTIMO E NON ESISTE...

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